Mandem!!!! Swear down there is actually a difference between Protectiveness and Paranoia!!!

Hello again peeps, My last blog was mainly focused at females but this one is more directly at the guys!!! There are alot of people out there who have a protective (sometimes over-protective and f***ing suffocating) partner. I can DEFINITELY raise my hand and say I am one of them. Now, there are many different ways in conveying this sense of protectiveness (positive and negative) It could be not wanting people to be rude or disrespectful about your love one or it could be as simple as wanting to know where they are and what they are up to?

Now guys LISTEN UP: Yes she is your WOMAN but she aint your blasted POSSESSION!! The term "SHE'S MINE" or "YOUR MINES" should be banned and if your had the correct amount of respect for her, you wouldn't refer to her in this way. That is such a macho and egostical statement: Please believe it will get you absolutely NOWHERE in the long run!!!!! If some guys could just take the time to think before the speak for example: Making an enquiry about your wifey's whereabouts rather than demand to know where she is...is the difference between being protective and being paranoid.

You guys also need to establish where this so-called "Protectiveness" of your comes from? Now being insecure is what ALOT of guys are (and emotional). It isnt just us girlies. Its the insecurities that you have that make that protectiveness turn into paranoia and the ultimate sin in a relationship DISTRUST. People need to establish whether you feeling of insecurity is because you think she/he is about OR because you know that your the one who is about it that cant be trust and scared that your partner might do or be doing the same.

Insecurities just cause arguments and paranoia will only push him or her further away, making them more secretive. Trust, Communication and Respect are all you will need to work part these little episodes. Being MACHO isnt the key being OPEN is what will work!!!!