Parenthood is no joke!!!! Get seriouse!!! Part 1

This week I was going to go in on people parenting skills, I have written the whole article and everything. However I was in my car the other day after uploading new music to my iPhone, I put on 'The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill' everyone knows that's an album and put on 'To Zion', whilst listening I began to cry, because I felt every word of the song, And any mother will agree and understand.
As I cried thinking about the "joy of my world" I no longer wanted to post my piece on the failers on my generation of perants, but share with you guy this feeling that Lauryn was trying to explain, and remind us all of "the joy" of any perants world and we need to do everything in our power to show our children just this.
"Unsure of what the balance held,I touched my belly overwhelmed" .

I remember this moment like it was yesterday, scared, uncertain, definitely overwhelmed. I remember the first moment knowing I was pregnant, thinking no way I'm I keeping it, that would be crazy.

"I knew his life deserved a chance, But everybody told me to be smart"

conflicted between my heart, my mind and other peoples opinions. Everyone from my mother to my best friend told be abortion was what needed to be done, but in my heart I knew she was the choosen one. Now I could quote you line by line because I can identify with this song that much, and the second verse is just power:
"And I thank you for choosing me
To come through unto life to be
A beautiful reflection of his grace
For I know that a gift so great
Is only one God could create
And I'm reminded every time I see your face"

This is the point I really want to drive home, please people do not forget your child is a gift, and Im glad I decided to follow my heart because my angle is the light of my life, I need her as much as she needs me. And I know every parent must feel the same. However not all show this and this love gets mixed in with the stress and craziness of this western society we all reside in. No one is perfect, but that life is in your hands....... Be greatful for the "joy of your world", when there are people out there that will never experience what you have ...... To be continued Mrs Capone

DAMN!!! I wish I could stay but we were a beautiful mistake!!

Hey peeps, Now don't mind me in this installement - Guys, Im gona get a little greezy but im still the same princess diva I ever was.

I decided to write this blog after listening to Miss Keri Baby (Keri Hilson's) track - Beautiful Mistake from her "No boys allowed" album (Excuse the plug but it's a good album). The track is about when u are casually seeing someone, the sex is immense but you have that realisation that: "That this isnt right" and "this isnt where you should be (for whatever reason) and "OMG - this was another BEAUTIFUL MISTAKE"

I remembered in my young days, selling my self short by being easily curious about nearly every guy I liked (apart being curious, I also got dealt like a bimbo)....being gamed on my guys!!! Letting them fill my head with SHIT "It was total shit on some occasions - but I will go into that in a bit" People, please tell me that I am not the only 1 who felt ripped off by some of your previous sexual partners. Talking the talking, but dont know shit about the GOOD shit!!! Them girls that got the right bits but are far too lazy to get involved or just dont have a clue! Or that guy who can turn you on sexually with a bit of flirting but you would never fuck again in a million years (Sigh of frustration)

So there are some Beautiful mistake and others are just MISTAKES...failures...learning curves!! One quick piecce of advice doe - Guys: if you are not well-in-downed so got what I will call a minitonka, try other sexual practices! (You know what I mean) MOVING ON - I found the person who likes to indulge in convo str8 after the deed is done - is usually a shit fuck. Take a second and think about it! They say shit like "You looked like you enjoyed that?" Am i lying?

When we have that realisation (esp. Females) its usually nothing about the sex! It probably was the best she had had in a while but either or circumstances (Babymother, Age, How you know eachother etc) or even your personality (Bigheaded, Insecure, Jealousy, Needy etc) is just not compatible. I know as a female, when we are seeing someone, we are thinking about PROSPECTS! If we aint going in the same direction, regardless of the sexual favours (some outweigh others doe, take note)...Imma soon cut you loose!! For some guys it's: "Is she a slag?" or "Aint that my bredrins ting?"

The best way for us as young people is to do the impossible...To avoid possible disappointment! We should take the time to get to know either other better BEFORE we decide to show him/her what we are made of...breasts...arse...cock..tongues etc!!!!! Don't sell yourself short for the idea of maybe getting a possibly good time with your new hot link! Having a deep convo or even attempting to get to know them, could save you alot of time and space for other knotches on you bed post!!

Hopefully I mad you giggle a little and give you the opportunity to reminisce about the good times and some bad!!

Yasmin, over and out!!! Remember it's all about Love, Life and Laughter xxx

Chocolate brownie cake recipe - Recipes - BBC Good Food

Chocolate brownie cake recipe - Recipes - BBC Good Food


I'm making this cake today guys wish me luck, I'm going to post a pic when it's made. No lie I'm suesy homemaker in the making.
Mrs Capone xx

Ask questions and vote!!!

Ok people Love,Life Laughter has now upgraded make sure you vote, huge debate can men and women be friends really can people from the opposite sex actually be platonice mutual friends no strings nuthing, didnt like you at some point ect...
And dont be affraid to ask questions too!!!!!

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Sorry guys....we are trying to get this sorted as soon as possible, Hope ur enjoying reading as much as we are enjoying writing!!!

There is definitely more to come from Me and Soraia and our experiences of Love, Life and Laughter!


Yasmin and Soraia xx

Mandem!!!! Swear down there is actually a difference between Protectiveness and Paranoia!!!

Hello again peeps, My last blog was mainly focused at females but this one is more directly at the guys!!! There are alot of people out there who have a protective (sometimes over-protective and f***ing suffocating) partner. I can DEFINITELY raise my hand and say I am one of them. Now, there are many different ways in conveying this sense of protectiveness (positive and negative) It could be not wanting people to be rude or disrespectful about your love one or it could be as simple as wanting to know where they are and what they are up to?

Now guys LISTEN UP: Yes she is your WOMAN but she aint your blasted POSSESSION!! The term "SHE'S MINE" or "YOUR MINES" should be banned and if your had the correct amount of respect for her, you wouldn't refer to her in this way. That is such a macho and egostical statement: Please believe it will get you absolutely NOWHERE in the long run!!!!! If some guys could just take the time to think before the speak for example: Making an enquiry about your wifey's whereabouts rather than demand to know where she is...is the difference between being protective and being paranoid.

You guys also need to establish where this so-called "Protectiveness" of your comes from? Now being insecure is what ALOT of guys are (and emotional). It isnt just us girlies. Its the insecurities that you have that make that protectiveness turn into paranoia and the ultimate sin in a relationship DISTRUST. People need to establish whether you feeling of insecurity is because you think she/he is about OR because you know that your the one who is about it that cant be trust and scared that your partner might do or be doing the same.

Insecurities just cause arguments and paranoia will only push him or her further away, making them more secretive. Trust, Communication and Respect are all you will need to work part these little episodes. Being MACHO isnt the key being OPEN is what will work!!!!

Money Makes the World Go Round!!!!!!

Hi People, Mummies bk Happy New year 2011, Even through coast of living has gone up majorly. Don’t be sad, just don’t lose your job. Hard times ahead !!!!

Had to buy an oyster card the other day, why is it now £5. It’s a joke!

On a more serious note VAT has gone up to its highest ever rate at 20%, a litre of unleaded petrol will go up by 3p adding about another £1.50 to the price of filling up a small car. Buying a car for example a Ford Focus will go up by about  £323, and the VAT increase has also put about another  £10.00 on the cost of a standard 37inch flat screen  TV.  Loool you lot don’t want me to go in, a pair of Air Force one’s now coast £61.99 from 59.99.    

 The Government hopes to raise an £13bn from the increase, but opposition leaders have been very critical, describing it as reckless.

                Well I would describe it as reckless and ****ING rude, as per usual were paying for their mistakes.  DO NOT SHOP IN 2011 ITS NOT WORTH IT.

2011 is all about being smart with your money and making your money work for you. Trust!!!! 

Over and Out Ms Capone

Happy 5th Anniversary

Jesus Christmas - another year has passed and regardless of all the ups and downs (there have been QUITE a few) Me and my baby are still together!!!

So I am wishing my bighead a happy anniversary and you 2011 is set to be a big year for us!!!!! xxxxx

Should you still have faith in the 'one' or is it over- rated?

Should you still have faith in the one or is it over- rated?
I've spoken to alot of females and some males and due to repeated bad experiences have lost faith in 'The One' people especially women who settle for whatever they can get or stay in a dead end relationship holding on to the hope that the person may 'one day' change ,(trust me I've been there) men and women who are not even worth your time or energy.
I always used to say " don't settle for less then the best" and somehow along the way stopped thinking the best existed, (like alot of people) and just wasted my time on alot of waste that just made me bitter, insecure and hatefull towards men. Then too top it all off for me I got pregnant for a man who was far from the one and totally lost faith that I could find the love that I so longed for.
Now single mum I thought that, that was for me, it was going go be me, my child and 2 cats (lol), how was I going to meet a man who was willing to father my child and love me the way I wanted to be loved. I thought I was asking for too much from one person, and when I'd hear of stories of women who were engaged or moving in with there Mr Right, Mr Perfect. I 'd be like please she's just lucky!! (HATEING) These women and men are not lucky they are normal people like you and I. That have simply meet there 'the one'.
Thing is people will always treat you however you let them, so don't let them; and please "you can't help who you like" is just a poor excuse to be taken for a fool.
The same also goes for men how do you expect to find the one when you only keep your eyes on our breast and batty, only thinking about what you can get and not on the person inside. Never really letting your self go always holding back, the mandem will only be there for so long. A woman is more then a beat, she's there to be your companion.

Love is alot more then people think, its not just saying it because it sounds good, or because the other person said it to you first, love is not selfish, it's kind, it dosnt seek after it own heart, but looks out for your best interest, it's more then a passing emotion, it's definately more then several nights in bed, its also not looking for a perfect person but simpy someone who's perfect for you. Too Many people confuse love and lust and its really sad to see. Just because a man or woman can fuck your brains out dosn't make that love.
Now I'm not claiming to know all about love, nor I'm I claiming to be in a perfect relationship however I know the person I'm with is the "one" I want to spent the rest of my life with. Can you say the same?

First Blog of 2011 and ENJOY!!!!

WHAT WE DO FOR LOVE

The Lengths and Consequences.

Sacrifice is BIG thing when it comes to love and relationships. Some sacrifices for example: giving up your favourite side of the bed are a lot more trivial than others. BUT there is always a line or limit as to what is possible and what should be expected of you or your special someone. The worst sacrifices to make are the ones that beak you down mentally. When your original plan was to make yourself happy because you found love but then you find that those sacrifices are beneficial to your loved one but you feel quite empty inside. People do this more often than you think. PLEASE BELIEVE there are actually people out there (esp. Females) who will be humiliated and degraded in order to prove something in their plight of love. Let a man tell them that they are nothing and that they can’t do any better than them!!!! (They have their shit twisted: you deserve better) I have heard and seen boys disrespect their girlfriends to their friends and even in front of them. People will tolerate all sorts of abuse whether it be physical, mental or emotional because the feelings that are caught up in the situation.

I remember in the first year of my relationship, feeling like I couldn’t say no to my boyfriend for ANYTHING. Breaking my back and my pocket to prove my love and I guess to impress at the same time. Leaving to be friends with every female from here to flipping east London and back, using my phone and finishing off my minutes and not being bothered or jealous. Buying him everything he asked for and more. I would run to the shops praying that they had his size. Fronting to him that it wasn’t a big deal even if was my last £50. (Please God tell me that I wasn’t the only one) Mothering and babying him – sacrificing my own time to do whatever it takes to him feel comfortable to show how special he was to me. Trying to play the "perfect" wifey role being efficient and caring and juggling day to day life like its all natural and is "well easy"

Its funny how we try our best to prove our feelings and totally disregard our own. But sometimes after all that, your best efforts are not enough. But does that then mean you should continue giving and sacrifice a bit more or Call it a day...it’s for you to decide. LOVE is PAIN...Yes, realistically...but it shouldn’t all be giving and selflessness and pain.Finding the right balance is critical but extremely difficult at the same time. A relationship is a two way street. I shouldn’t say it but whatever you put in and at some point you should be getting it all back. Remember I described that feeling of not being able to say no to him....the tables have turned!!!! After a good two years of putting in, I’m now a spoil brat (LOL) who always gets treats! How that all changed is a story for another day, another blog!!!! I guess what I am trying to say is that if that love is real, your kindness won’t go unrecognised and he will shock you and will get your well deserved day(s) of rest. Sometimes you will have to put in a whole and feel at your wits ends, but both you and your loved one has to remember that the is a limit. Communication is key to making your feelings known. With the right person, all your hard work and sacrificies will eventually pay off!

Yasmin xxx