First Blog of 2011 and ENJOY!!!!

WHAT WE DO FOR LOVE

The Lengths and Consequences.

Sacrifice is BIG thing when it comes to love and relationships. Some sacrifices for example: giving up your favourite side of the bed are a lot more trivial than others. BUT there is always a line or limit as to what is possible and what should be expected of you or your special someone. The worst sacrifices to make are the ones that beak you down mentally. When your original plan was to make yourself happy because you found love but then you find that those sacrifices are beneficial to your loved one but you feel quite empty inside. People do this more often than you think. PLEASE BELIEVE there are actually people out there (esp. Females) who will be humiliated and degraded in order to prove something in their plight of love. Let a man tell them that they are nothing and that they can’t do any better than them!!!! (They have their shit twisted: you deserve better) I have heard and seen boys disrespect their girlfriends to their friends and even in front of them. People will tolerate all sorts of abuse whether it be physical, mental or emotional because the feelings that are caught up in the situation.

I remember in the first year of my relationship, feeling like I couldn’t say no to my boyfriend for ANYTHING. Breaking my back and my pocket to prove my love and I guess to impress at the same time. Leaving to be friends with every female from here to flipping east London and back, using my phone and finishing off my minutes and not being bothered or jealous. Buying him everything he asked for and more. I would run to the shops praying that they had his size. Fronting to him that it wasn’t a big deal even if was my last £50. (Please God tell me that I wasn’t the only one) Mothering and babying him – sacrificing my own time to do whatever it takes to him feel comfortable to show how special he was to me. Trying to play the "perfect" wifey role being efficient and caring and juggling day to day life like its all natural and is "well easy"

Its funny how we try our best to prove our feelings and totally disregard our own. But sometimes after all that, your best efforts are not enough. But does that then mean you should continue giving and sacrifice a bit more or Call it a day...it’s for you to decide. LOVE is PAIN...Yes, realistically...but it shouldn’t all be giving and selflessness and pain.Finding the right balance is critical but extremely difficult at the same time. A relationship is a two way street. I shouldn’t say it but whatever you put in and at some point you should be getting it all back. Remember I described that feeling of not being able to say no to him....the tables have turned!!!! After a good two years of putting in, I’m now a spoil brat (LOL) who always gets treats! How that all changed is a story for another day, another blog!!!! I guess what I am trying to say is that if that love is real, your kindness won’t go unrecognised and he will shock you and will get your well deserved day(s) of rest. Sometimes you will have to put in a whole and feel at your wits ends, but both you and your loved one has to remember that the is a limit. Communication is key to making your feelings known. With the right person, all your hard work and sacrificies will eventually pay off!

Yasmin xxx